Divorce - Keeping the House

As far as getting to keep the house is concerned, you have to be realistic. Can you really buy the other person out? Can you really afford the payments of the house? It may be completely unreal. You should also think about who will get the children. If you aren't the one getting to take children to be with you, then don't expect to get the house, because the house will usually go where the children are. You shouldn't ask for custody because of the house.

Children should not be leverage in a case.

They should never be used so you can get whatever it is that you want. One of the biggest reasons why people will sell the house during the divorce is because neither of them can make the payments alone.

If one of you can, you can take advantage and buy out their half or you can sell for your advantage again. If you want the house, ask the other to move out right away. This way you will have a better chance of getting the house, as well as, the other party losing the house since they forfeited over to you. The one who moves out will be seen as very generous person who just gave the other the house. Ask for a removal. This will allow you to have temporary absence, but remember they can also file for a temporary stay in the house, after the other has left. You should have a plan if you lose the house.

You're not guaranteed the house, so don't act like you are. If you run your business from the house or within the house, you will likely get the house just because it would be an unnecessary inconvenience. It will prove that you have more value towards the home.

You will also want to make sure that you never leave the house or it will leave your possession. You will want to consult your lawyer on other tips on how to keep the house. You will want to make sure that you don't suffer financially just to keep the home. Some of the things that you will need to keep in mind is who will fix the things around the house. Do you have the ability to pay for the pairs or can you do them yourself?

If are the one who gets possession of the home, you should immediately change the locks. This way you can't have your ex entering the premises without your permission. You will want to change the locks as soon as they move out. This way they can't harm you during the proceedings if that's the way they are. You may even want to install an alarm so that you know that no one can open a window and get in. If you feel that your life is in danger, don't fight over the house. However, as a mother or parent you have the right to protect your children and want to stay in the house. When it comes to disputes that include property, you have to ask yourself if it is worth it and why you are pushing the issue.

To get the house, you will want to think about going through mediation. You may find that you will have to give up more things for the house, but you have to wage the house against the other possessions. Usually, if you get the house than you get practically nothing else. You may get child support and alimony, but you don't get any of the other possessions in most cases.

When it comes to divorce proceedings, always make sure that you don't have anything to hide. If you do, you had better have a backup plan in place so that you can clear your name and the courts may be more likely to give you the house. Again, you will want to think about the children as well when it comes to the custody of the house.

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Divorce and child support

Because of all the possible variations, you will need to see exactly what your state laws say about child support after your divorce. The key point to child support is to make sure that the children are taken care off when the parents separate. After a divorce, some people can not provide enough for their family on one income, that is why you need to file for child support.

The judge on the case is the one who will make the child support reasonable by looking at what the father or mother makes along with the guardian of the child and the needs of the child. The older a child gets, the more money you will pay because their needs increase. Those who refuse to pay their child support will be prosecuted. It is against the law to ignore the decisions of the courts. Usually, along with child support you get to see the children on a regular basis. However, each case is different and be prepared for curve balls.

Both parents have a duty towards their children. One will pay the support, and the other must use the support money to help with their children's expenses. Usually, the one who has the least time with the child will pay the support. Sometimes it is the father and sometimes it is the mother. Your martial issues are never a concern in the child support because it doesn't matter what went wrong with the marriage to cause the divorce, only that the child is taken care of. The only thing that matters is if the parent is responsible. If there was abuse, obviously they won't get custody and will end up paying child support regardless of visitation.

As I am sure you are aware, you do not get to choose how much you will pay, so you need to do your research when you first start the divorce proceedings. You will first want to make sure that your payment is scheduled. Your payment is due a certain time of the month and if they aren't on time, you may end up in jail for backed child support. Child support is only used to give the child shelter, food, and clothes. It may be used to purchase school supplies as well as other related things. Your payments will stop as soon as they turn 18. Some states require you to pay child support past 18 if they are still in high school or even college. If they become emancipated, you don't have to pay child support anymore either. Obviously if the child dies, you no longer have to either.

Find out right away what you may be paying because if you don't pay then eventually you will either go to jail, things will be auctioned off to pay your debt. You may have property seized by the government and then they sell the items to get the money. If you would like to keep your things or freedom, you may want to think about the amount you are willing to pay and then consult your lawyer on seeing if you can get the payment around that amount. Most people pay about $200-300 a month on child support per child.

Many have to get a second job just to keep making their payments. Don't worry about not getting the payment on time, because most employers will send it straight from your paycheck. Every check that you get, you will have a little bit taken each time for your child support bill. If you are use to living quite extravagant, when you start paying child support, your spending will have to go down or that you can afford to live on what you make.

Child support is a very serious matter and you will find that it isn't cheap. Consult your lawyer to find out what you should expect to pay.

Finding a Good Divorce Attorney

Figuring out how to find the right lawyer to handle your divorce can be difficult. There are just so many factors that you will want to look at. Once you have gotten over the pain and hurt, however, you really need to consult a good divorce lawyer to advise you on what's fair.



Yes, we all know that some lawyers will try to go for all they can, but if you want to have a civilized divorce (if one is possible) you will want to go after only what is fair. There is going to be an awful lot of stress that divorce can bring, but if you find the right attorney you will find that you won't have to deal with so much.

You need a lawyer that will ease your stress levels.

One thing that you need to look at when choosing an attorney is the fee. Is this lawyer going to cost you an arm and a leg? If so, then you may just be adding more stress on top of everything else. Lawyers will let you know what their costs are going to be, and that will depend mainly on the difficulty of the divorce. If you don't have anyone contesting a marriage then you may just want to hire the first reasonable lawyer you come to and get things over with. If you want to have a sensible divorce, you don't want to go with the high paid lawyers. They will go for all they can so that they can get a better fee. You need to be as open and honest as possible when you first meet with the lawyer. This way you can have a good idea of what to look forward to.

You should also take their expertise in consideration too. You want to look for a good track record if you want to have a blood battle or get as much as possible. Of course, you can hire a lawyer outside of the divorce field as well. On the other hand, if you get an experienced divorce lawyer, they will know the judges and how they react to certain cases as well as being familiar with the process in your state. They will use all of their knowledge for your advantage. The fee may be more important than expertise, but you should know that you get what you pay for.

You may also want to ask around. Talk to your friends as they might know a few lawyers that will be good candidates...especially if they themselves have been through a divorce. A good lawyer will not hide anything. They will let their clients know that they would like to be referred and they may even talk about past clients. This will convince you of how experienced and good they are so that you will hire them. Their testimony may mean nothing, but if you ask around you will be able to get a good idea of what they are really like. Some lawyers are known for being hard and so if that's what you are looking for, then you should go with a lawyer that everyone speaks of.

You should also pick a lawyer who you like. It is very important that you trust your lawyer. You won't really know what is going on, so you need to be able to rely on them. You also need to know that their attitude matches yours. If you want a cutthroat lawyer, then make sure that have the personality to be exactly that, but if you just want to get it over with and be done than seek a lawyer who will go after what's fair.

When it comes to fianlly picking your lawyer, you will want to make sure that you have one in mind that will do exactly what you want. You also want a lawyer who will have the time to deal with all the stress of the divorce so you can easily wash your hands of it all. You will want a lawyer that understands how you feel and knows what you want and how you would like to get it.

One Other Option

If there are no children and both parties are essentially in agreement, you will often be able to have a do it yourself divorce. All it takes is the appropriate legal forms and some professional guidance. Going this route can save you hundreds of dollars in legal fees, although you will have to do some of the leg work yourself. Otherwise, a do it yourself divorce is relatively simple and inexpensive.