Divorce - That New Special Someone

Okay. Now you find yourself divorced and dating again. Weird, isn't it? It seems so hard to find someone who is special enough to get you to make a move. It's hard enough to even face your first date let alone try to start over with someone special. Dating is a game that can involve good times and bad times. The thing about love is that you have a risk and everyone has a risk. The excitement is what we live for. It is what we need in our lives.



If you have been out of the dating game for a long time, you will almost certainly feel a little out of place. You are now in new situations with new people.

Dating is hard and it gets harder the older we get. Why? Because we tend to be on the defense rather than the offense when it comes to dating in our older years. Before you get to the dating, you have to stop and think about a few things. You have to seriously think about what you are looking for and why.

The first thing that you need to do is just get your priorities straight. Do you just want to meet new people, do you want to be friends, or are you looking for a more serious relationship? Don't allow anyone to tell you what you should do. You can be in your 60's and still seek love. In vact, you can be any age and want to seek love. You should never let another person tell you what you want. You need to know what you want first so that you don't mislead anyone or get mixed messages yourself. This is the way that you can date smart.

Dating smart means that you both of the same objections and are perfectly matched in goals.

The next importan thing is to be open-minded. You may have forgotten what it is like to be in love, or your last relationship may have skewed your judgement. You can easily make some crazy mistakes in the name of love...or what you think is love. Don't allow yourself to get too far off the ground. You don't your heart to break so early in the game. The first date is always the worst. If he calls back, great, and if they don't then it's okay because you have another date. Don't tie yourself down. Play the field to find out what exactly you are looking for. This will let you to pick someone because you want to not because you are settling.

When it comes to meeting someone new be open to all the channels of love. Let your family and friends help you get back in the game by doing some blind dating or speed dating. You will want to ask some of your friends to help you find someone and you should ask your family for the same help. The thing about blind dates is that you want to make sure that you're supported by friends and family. Don't allow someone to say that you're too old or that blind dates are ridiculous. We all have had a blind date and one or two turned out to be a meaningful relationship.

You can answer a personal ad online or in the newspaper. The only thing that you have to worry about this kind of blind date is that it is done in a public place. You want to make sure that you are safely going to meet someone. Don't allow them to know your full name or where you live until after a few dates and you thing that it's someone that you would like to meet. You might want to view a web page entitled Online Dating Safety Tips.

Once you have allowed yourself to meet that special someone, you will find that your life will pick up where it seemed to fall apart and you may have your happy ever after. The only thing about ever 'afters' is that they normally don't find you, you have to find them.