To Divorce Or Not - 5 Signs Divorce May Be the Best Option

By Shannon E Cook



Divorce is a painful life transition for most people and should not be undertaken lightly. However, if you have tried all you know to improve the relationship and there are certain dealbreakers in place, it may be that the relationship is best off ending before things get worse. Here are 5 signs divorce may be the best decision:

1. You and your partner are committing serial infidelity. An affair can end up strengthening a marriage if the result is better communication and accountability between the partners. But if one or both are continually betraying the other, there is no way to build a foundation of any kind of trust in the marriage. Moreover, the physical dangers of disease in a non-monogamous relationship are very real.

2. There is untreated addiction in your partner. If your partner abuses drugs and alcohol, then the marriage is an unstable and unbalanced one. You are running the risk of being affected by legal issues (DUI's, personal injury, etc), and may be endangering your very safety as well (for example if you get in a car with your intoxicated spouse). Your partner is going to continue to be consumed with obtaining the substance and will not be fully present in the relationship.

3. Your partner is physically abusive. If your partner harms or threatens to harm you physically in any way, please contact a counselor or shelter that specializes in domestic violence. You will need guidance to navigate this difficult situation. Keep in mind, physical abuse often escalates and you need to do all you can to protect yourself.

4. Your partner is emotionally and psychologically abusive. This type of abuse may be more difficult to detect, but it can be very destructive to your psyche. It can keep you depressed and feeling inferior, isolated, incompetent, and even crazy. The best treatment starts with removal from the influence of the abuser.

5. Your partner suffers from a personality disorder. Chances are, the disorder will drive your partner to commit some of the aforementioned hurtful acts. Unfortunately, personality disorders like narcissism and sociopathy/psychopathy are hard wired into the psyche of the individual, and there is no definitive cure or consistently effective treatment. If your partner is wired to be callous, unfeeling, and concerned with self above all others, continuing on in the destructive relationship is unlikely to yield better results for you.

Are you interested in addressing your life challenges from a holistic standpoint, assessing the physical, emotional, and relationship components?

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Shannon Cook is a personal growth and relationship expert who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and holistic personal growth, including physical, emotional and relationship health.

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