Is Divorce in Your Future?

Signs That a Separation or Divorce Is Imminent
By Rachel De Cruz

Usually divorce is initiated by one party. The initiator will feel relieved after initiating it as it probably plagued them for months thinking about it whilst the other party will be in denial and shock. After the denial stage, the other party usually says "I should have seen it coming". There are always signs leading to a divorce and here are the few common signs:

Communication begins to cease - When one party starts thinking about separation or divorce, their mindset is focused on the matter that communication becomes a chore to them because they either have to keep up a front or they communicate unsupportively with one syllable answer. If it is the woman that is acting that way, most man will attribute that to hormonal issues and if it is a man, it is attributed to work stress therefore this sign can often be overlooked.

Unusual Behaviour Change - Behaviour change can come in many ways. Some could change from a homely person to an outgoing person; change in hairstyle; change in dressing; change in overall outlook i.e starts working out. Different individual will exhibit different changes depending on the reason behind the intended divorce.

Being Secretive - Suddenly the divorce initiator partner will become secretive about their ins and outs. They might begin to alienate their friends from your friends and going out on their own with their friends. Specific details will also not be provided when going out. For example where previously it is "Hi, I am going out to Tesco with Jane and I will be back around 4ish" will turn into "I am going with my friend". Place, time and whom they are going out with is no longer a detail they share.

Constant SMS and Late Night Calls - In this modern era of SMS-es, this is usually the number one tell-tale sign that the relationship is heading down the divorce track. It does not necessarily mean that there is a third party but it indicates that his/her most trusted person is no longer you. You no longer are his/her confidante.

Making Themselves a Victim - The initiator is usually wrecked with guilt and as a result of trying to soothe their conscience, they start convincing themselves and you how they have suffered and have been a victim in the relationship. Although deep down they know it is their fault for giving up instead of trying, they could not face their decision therefore it is easier to find faults with the other party.

These are five of the common signs that a relationship is failing. Noticing these signs early and taking actions instead of brushing it aside might have a chance in saving a marriage but not necessarily so. If you are the party that got 'dumped', do not feel guilty thinking how you have resulted in such sufferance to your partner, if you have tried and given your best. To the initiator of a divorce, a failed relationship does not necessarily mean a failed friendship. Be honest with yourself and face your decision instead of trying to put the blame on your partner. It always takes two to tango.

For those going through the big D, there are many resources out there that could help you alleviate the pain and pull through this difficult moment. To help you make a better choice, the resources recommended at sgdivorce.the101guide.com are handpicked for your convenience. Most importantly, do become a member of the blog to share your experiences and thoughts with many others who are in the same boat as you. The most important thing to remind yourself is - you are not alone.

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